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=3D"2">You are right
-----"Ru=
ben Safir" <ru=
ben-at-mrbrklyn.com> wrote: -----yle=3D"padding-left: 5px;"> 5px; border-left-color: black; border-left-width: 2px; border-left-style: s= olid;">To: "Deutsch, Chaim" < target=3D"=5Fblank">cdeutsch-at-council.nyc.gov>, lder-at-nysenate.gov" target=3D"=5Fblank">felder-at-nysenate.gov, "Wuhan(COVI= D)-19 Discussion and Medical Professionals" < klyn.com" target=3D"=5Fblank">docs-at-mrbrklyn.com>, "Helene Weinstein"= < WeinstH-at-=
nyassembly.gov>, " ank">weinsth-at-nysa.us" < =5Fblank">weinsth-at-nysa.us> From: "Ruben Safir" < lto:ruben-at-mrbrklyn.com" target=3D"=5Fblank">ruben-at-mrbrklyn.com> D= ate: 06/17/2020 06:20PM Subject: Re: [ Docs ] [Hangout - NYLXS] Health o= f our children.. urier,monospace" size=3D"2">It makes no sense to lock kids into NYC when th=
ey can be sent to a safer
place in summer camp...
WSJ -
Th=
e Toll That Isolation Takes on Kids During the Coronavirus Era
Andrea Pe=
tersen
12-15 minutes
After six weeks of lockdown due to Covid-19,=
Cari Marshall was getting
concerned about her 11-year-old daughter Chlo=
e. The child missed seeing
her friends in person and was becoming frustr=
ated communicating with
them solely via FaceTime, TikTok and the gaming =
app Roblox.
“It laid bare how important her personal relations=
hips are to her daily
happiness,” says Ms. Marshall, a political v=
olunteer organizer in
Austin, Texas. “She is all about her friends=
hips.”
With many summer camps canceled, many families continui=
ng to practice
social distancing and the upcoming school year a big ques=
tion mark,
pediatricians and psychologists are raising alarms about the =
potential
impact of prolonged social isolation on children. Some point t=
o research
that has found an array of benefits of positive peer relation=
ships:
Children who have them are more likely to later develop healthy r=
omantic
relationships and be more effective at work. Good relationships =
with
peers during the teen years are linked to better health during adul=
thood.
Cari Marshall has started to arrange socially distanced playd=
ates for
her daughter Chloe, 11.
Photo: Cari Marshall
“T=
here’s a key connection between having good peer interactions and
=
social emotional well-being,” says Rebecca Rialon Berry, clinical
=
associate professor of child and adolescent psychiatry at NYU Langone
He=
alth in New York. “In certain populations, we’re seeing that ou=
r
depression and anxiety are heightening with continued quarantiningR=
21; and
other aspects of the pandemic. “We have to start talking a=
bout the
calculated risk and taking some more.”
There’=
;s already evidence that social isolation may lead to mental health
issu=
es. About 23% of elementary school students in Hubei province in
China h=
ad symptoms of depression and 19% had anxiety symptoms after two
or more=
months of home confinement earlier this year during the region’s
=
coronavirus outbreak, according to a survey of 1,784 children published
=
in April in JAMA Pediatrics.
Psychologists are particularly concerne=
d about how socially anxious
children and others who already struggle ma=
king or keeping friends will
fare. These youngsters might be relieved no=
w to have a break from the
social minefield of the lunchroom or playgrou=
nd, but “not having as many
opportunities to practice, you might s=
ee a kind of withering of the
social skills or a lack of development of =
the social skills,” says Eli
R. Lebowitz, associate professor at t=
he Child Study Center at Yale
School of Medicine.
Children are le=
ss likely than adults to become seriously ill from
Covid-19 and many sho=
w few symptoms. However, there have been rare cases
of a dangerous compl=
ication called multisystem inflammatory syndrome in
children. And doctor=
s are still trying to understand how easily infected
children could spre=
ad the virus to more vulnerable people.
Friendships play different r=
oles throughout children’s development. For
preschoolers, playing =
with other children and “learning to share,
keeping your hands to =
yourself” helps develop our “core moral building
blocks of e=
mpathy, perspective-taking, negotiation, collaboration and
cooperation,&=
#8221; says Dr. Rialon Berry. Playing with peers teaches children
to reg=
ulate their emotions and behavior. “If we can do so, more people
a=
re going to want to hang with us and play with us,” she says. Theser>skills are critical to navigating all sorts of adult relationships.
r>Preschoolers need to interact with other children to learn these
lesso=
ns, says Kenneth Rubin, professor of human development and
quantitative =
methodology at the University of Maryland. “Parents just
can’=
;t tell kids how they should act with other kids,” he says. “Ch=
ildren
learn to be kind based on their understanding of how others feel =
and
that they are in need of a hug.”
During the elementary =
school years, time with friends allows social
skills to sharpen as child=
ren hone their “ability to take the
perspective of others. There a=
re opportunities to examine and discuss
alternative and conflicting idea=
s and to compromise,” Dr. Rialon Berry
says. Competing with peers =
on sports teams and in academics helps kids
learn about winning, losing =
and managing conflict, says Karen L.
Bierman, director of the Child Stud=
y Center at Pennsylvania State
University. And the growing complexity of=
children’s relationships—the
changing roster of best friend=
s and peer groups—teaches children to
manage challenging emotions =
like jealousy, Dr. Bierman says.
For teenagers, relationships with p=
eers help them “develop a sense of
identity and values,” say=
s Mary Alvord, a psychologist in Chevy Chase,
Md. As teens separate from=
parents they rely on their friends for social
support and help navigati=
ng the choppy waters of adolescence, notes Dr.
Rialon Berry.
R=
20;Of all age groups, this virus is probably more socially devastating tor>teens than any other group. They are bored and they are lonely,” sa=
ys
Joseph P. Allen, a professor of psychology at the University of
Vi=
rginia. The teen years are when children “learn to manage issues ofr>intimacy and loyalty and boundaries that are crucial to adult
function=
ing,” he says. Dr. Allen points to the rising rates of anxiety
and=
depression among teens in recent years. Studies have also found that
te=
ens and young adults report more feelings of loneliness than any other
a=
ge group. Social isolation may make these problems worse, Dr. Allen says.r>Share Your Thoughts
How are you trying to balance the risks to chi=
ldren during the pandemic?
Join the conversation below.
Connectin=
g with peers digitally can help children maintain friendships.
Teens and=
many tweens already had robust digital social lives before the
pandemic=
, of course. Texting, meet-ups on Zoom and multiplayer
videogames have f=
illed some of children’s need for social connection.
But digit=
al playdates won’t be sufficient for younger children, says
Dimitr=
i Christakis, a pediatrician and director of the Center for Child
Health=
, Behavior and Development at Seattle Children’s Research
Institut=
e. “It is immensely important to be physically present the
younger=
you are,” Dr. Christakis says. “Social emotional learning
h=
appens when they are physically present with peers learning to
negotiate=
and share. You can’t do that over Zoom.” Dr. Rialon Berry says=
that while some of her tween and teen patients seem content with online=
socializing, others are craving physical closeness. “Some say, &#=
8216;I just
want a hug,’” from their friends, she says. R=
20;The neurochemical response
that comes from human touch is real.”=
;
And even the most ardent online social butterflies can get tired o=
f
virtual get-togethers, especially since crucial cues like eye contact<=
br>and body language can be missing. Dr. Alvord suggests that children keep=
online meetups interesting by playing old-school games like charades or=
Scattergories. Dr. Allen advises teens to prioritize interacting withr>friends one-one-one over making “curated” posts on Instagram =
and Snapchat.
Franklin Mendelsohn, an 18-year-old graduating high sc=
hool senior in
Silver Spring, Md., says the pandemic has caused him to r=
e-evaluate some
of his friendships. He’s mostly been socializing w=
ith friends on
Discord, a communication platform popular with videogamer=
s. But one high
school friend rebuffed his efforts to connect online. &#=
8220;Being socially
distant from people makes it very clear who actually=
wants to talk to
you,” he says. “It’s very easy to we=
ed out people who are friends of
convenience.” But Mr. Mendelsohn =
has also reconnected with an elementary
school friend and now plays vide=
ogames and communicates on Discord with
him every day. “We have so=
much time,” he says.
Some families are experimenting with soc=
ially distanced playdates
outdoors where children stay at least 6 feet a=
part, sometimes wearing
masks. Many pediatricians and psychologists reco=
mmend this approach for
older elementary schoolers, tweens and teens. &#=
8220;Even though you’re 6 feet
apart, the social cognitive neuroch=
emistry is firing like crazy, hearing
their stories and who likes who an=
d who doesn’t like who,” says Arthur
Lavin, a pediatrician i=
n Beachwood, Ohio, and chair of the American
Academy of Pediatrics’=
; committee on psychosocial aspects of child and
family health. Dr. Alvo=
rd recommends activities like riding bikes,
skateboarding and drawing wi=
th chalk on driveways, things that are
relatively easy to do while stayi=
ng physically apart. Younger children,
however, aren’t likely to b=
e able to keep their distance and their play
generally requires close co=
ntact.
Sarah Morford drives daughter Marilyn, 5, to her friends̵=
7; houses so she
can drop off homemade gifts in their mailboxes.
Phot=
o: Sarah Morford
Sarah Morford of Williamsburg, Va., has come up wit=
h some creative ways
to keep her daughter Marilyn, 5, and son George, 4,=
connected to their
friends. Marilyn, in particular, loves drawing pictu=
res, painting rocks
and making bracelets. Most Fridays, Ms. Morford driv=
es Marilyn to her
friends’ houses so she can drop off the homemade=
gifts in their
mailboxes. “She has the recipient in mind as she&#=
8217;s making the thing,”
says Ms. Morford, who owns a mobile spra=
y-tanning business.
For families with multiple children, siblings do=
provide a built-in kid
to play with—and fight with. But doctors a=
nd psychologists say that
siblings can’t fill the role peers do. &=
#8220;Almost invariably they’re not
the same age. Their skills are=
at different levels,” says Yale’s Dr.
Lebowitz. Siblings of=
ten compete for parent’s attention and may have
dramatically diffe=
rent interests.
Dr. Christakis is a proponent of “pods,”=
where two families that have
been isolating team up and allow in-person=
gatherings without social
distancing. Dr. Bierman says children will be=
nefit from connecting
closely even with just one friend. “Think of=
[children] as having a
social emotional learning deficit. Try to make u=
p for it with extra time
with friends,” Dr. Christakis says.
r>In late April, Ms. Marshall in Austin began arranging socially distant>one-on-one outdoor playdates with one of her daughter Chloe’s closes=
t
friends. In late May, she started them with a few more friends. The>children swim at opposite ends of the pool, watch movies on a large
scr=
een Ms. Marshall put up in the family’s yard and make TikTok videos.<=
br>The rules are “no sharing food, keeping distance, no hugs or kisse=
s,”
Ms. Marshall says.
Chloe is thrilled. “It’s=
exciting and I feel really happy” to see
friends, the soon-to-be =
sixth-grader says. “I missed them a lot.”
The Power of Peers=
Children gain critical life-skills from spending time with peers. H=
ere’s
some of what they learn by age:
—Preschoolersr>
Regulating emotions and behavior, negotiation and cooperation
=
—Elementary school
Winning, losing, managing conflict, honing =
the ability to take the
perspective of someone else
—Teen y=
ears
How to give and receive social support, intimacy, loyalty, boun=
dary setting
Write to Andrea Petersen at tersen-at-wsj.com" target=3D"=5Fblank">andrea.petersen-at-wsj.com
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Health and Wellness
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=3D"2">You are right
-----"Ru=
ben Safir" <ru=
ben-at-mrbrklyn.com> wrote: -----yle=3D"padding-left: 5px;"> 5px; border-left-color: black; border-left-width: 2px; border-left-style: s= olid;">To: "Deutsch, Chaim" < target=3D"=5Fblank">cdeutsch-at-council.nyc.gov>, lder-at-nysenate.gov" target=3D"=5Fblank">felder-at-nysenate.gov, "Wuhan(COVI= D)-19 Discussion and Medical Professionals" < klyn.com" target=3D"=5Fblank">docs-at-mrbrklyn.com>, "Helene Weinstein"= < WeinstH-at-=
nyassembly.gov>, " ank">weinsth-at-nysa.us" < =5Fblank">weinsth-at-nysa.us> From: "Ruben Safir" < lto:ruben-at-mrbrklyn.com" target=3D"=5Fblank">ruben-at-mrbrklyn.com> D= ate: 06/17/2020 06:20PM Subject: Re: [ Docs ] [Hangout - NYLXS] Health o= f our children.. urier,monospace" size=3D"2">It makes no sense to lock kids into NYC when th=
ey can be sent to a safer
place in summer camp...
WSJ -
Th=
e Toll That Isolation Takes on Kids During the Coronavirus Era
Andrea Pe=
tersen
12-15 minutes
After six weeks of lockdown due to Covid-19,=
Cari Marshall was getting
concerned about her 11-year-old daughter Chlo=
e. The child missed seeing
her friends in person and was becoming frustr=
ated communicating with
them solely via FaceTime, TikTok and the gaming =
app Roblox.
“It laid bare how important her personal relations=
hips are to her daily
happiness,” says Ms. Marshall, a political v=
olunteer organizer in
Austin, Texas. “She is all about her friends=
hips.”
With many summer camps canceled, many families continui=
ng to practice
social distancing and the upcoming school year a big ques=
tion mark,
pediatricians and psychologists are raising alarms about the =
potential
impact of prolonged social isolation on children. Some point t=
o research
that has found an array of benefits of positive peer relation=
ships:
Children who have them are more likely to later develop healthy r=
omantic
relationships and be more effective at work. Good relationships =
with
peers during the teen years are linked to better health during adul=
thood.
Cari Marshall has started to arrange socially distanced playd=
ates for
her daughter Chloe, 11.
Photo: Cari Marshall
“T=
here’s a key connection between having good peer interactions and
=
social emotional well-being,” says Rebecca Rialon Berry, clinical
=
associate professor of child and adolescent psychiatry at NYU Langone
He=
alth in New York. “In certain populations, we’re seeing that ou=
r
depression and anxiety are heightening with continued quarantiningR=
21; and
other aspects of the pandemic. “We have to start talking a=
bout the
calculated risk and taking some more.”
There’=
;s already evidence that social isolation may lead to mental health
issu=
es. About 23% of elementary school students in Hubei province in
China h=
ad symptoms of depression and 19% had anxiety symptoms after two
or more=
months of home confinement earlier this year during the region’s
=
coronavirus outbreak, according to a survey of 1,784 children published
=
in April in JAMA Pediatrics.
Psychologists are particularly concerne=
d about how socially anxious
children and others who already struggle ma=
king or keeping friends will
fare. These youngsters might be relieved no=
w to have a break from the
social minefield of the lunchroom or playgrou=
nd, but “not having as many
opportunities to practice, you might s=
ee a kind of withering of the
social skills or a lack of development of =
the social skills,” says Eli
R. Lebowitz, associate professor at t=
he Child Study Center at Yale
School of Medicine.
Children are le=
ss likely than adults to become seriously ill from
Covid-19 and many sho=
w few symptoms. However, there have been rare cases
of a dangerous compl=
ication called multisystem inflammatory syndrome in
children. And doctor=
s are still trying to understand how easily infected
children could spre=
ad the virus to more vulnerable people.
Friendships play different r=
oles throughout children’s development. For
preschoolers, playing =
with other children and “learning to share,
keeping your hands to =
yourself” helps develop our “core moral building
blocks of e=
mpathy, perspective-taking, negotiation, collaboration and
cooperation,&=
#8221; says Dr. Rialon Berry. Playing with peers teaches children
to reg=
ulate their emotions and behavior. “If we can do so, more people
a=
re going to want to hang with us and play with us,” she says. Theser>skills are critical to navigating all sorts of adult relationships.
r>Preschoolers need to interact with other children to learn these
lesso=
ns, says Kenneth Rubin, professor of human development and
quantitative =
methodology at the University of Maryland. “Parents just
can’=
;t tell kids how they should act with other kids,” he says. “Ch=
ildren
learn to be kind based on their understanding of how others feel =
and
that they are in need of a hug.”
During the elementary =
school years, time with friends allows social
skills to sharpen as child=
ren hone their “ability to take the
perspective of others. There a=
re opportunities to examine and discuss
alternative and conflicting idea=
s and to compromise,” Dr. Rialon Berry
says. Competing with peers =
on sports teams and in academics helps kids
learn about winning, losing =
and managing conflict, says Karen L.
Bierman, director of the Child Stud=
y Center at Pennsylvania State
University. And the growing complexity of=
children’s relationships—the
changing roster of best friend=
s and peer groups—teaches children to
manage challenging emotions =
like jealousy, Dr. Bierman says.
For teenagers, relationships with p=
eers help them “develop a sense of
identity and values,” say=
s Mary Alvord, a psychologist in Chevy Chase,
Md. As teens separate from=
parents they rely on their friends for social
support and help navigati=
ng the choppy waters of adolescence, notes Dr.
Rialon Berry.
R=
20;Of all age groups, this virus is probably more socially devastating tor>teens than any other group. They are bored and they are lonely,” sa=
ys
Joseph P. Allen, a professor of psychology at the University of
Vi=
rginia. The teen years are when children “learn to manage issues ofr>intimacy and loyalty and boundaries that are crucial to adult
function=
ing,” he says. Dr. Allen points to the rising rates of anxiety
and=
depression among teens in recent years. Studies have also found that
te=
ens and young adults report more feelings of loneliness than any other
a=
ge group. Social isolation may make these problems worse, Dr. Allen says.r>Share Your Thoughts
How are you trying to balance the risks to chi=
ldren during the pandemic?
Join the conversation below.
Connectin=
g with peers digitally can help children maintain friendships.
Teens and=
many tweens already had robust digital social lives before the
pandemic=
, of course. Texting, meet-ups on Zoom and multiplayer
videogames have f=
illed some of children’s need for social connection.
But digit=
al playdates won’t be sufficient for younger children, says
Dimitr=
i Christakis, a pediatrician and director of the Center for Child
Health=
, Behavior and Development at Seattle Children’s Research
Institut=
e. “It is immensely important to be physically present the
younger=
you are,” Dr. Christakis says. “Social emotional learning
h=
appens when they are physically present with peers learning to
negotiate=
and share. You can’t do that over Zoom.” Dr. Rialon Berry says=
that while some of her tween and teen patients seem content with online=
socializing, others are craving physical closeness. “Some say, &#=
8216;I just
want a hug,’” from their friends, she says. R=
20;The neurochemical response
that comes from human touch is real.”=
;
And even the most ardent online social butterflies can get tired o=
f
virtual get-togethers, especially since crucial cues like eye contact<=
br>and body language can be missing. Dr. Alvord suggests that children keep=
online meetups interesting by playing old-school games like charades or=
Scattergories. Dr. Allen advises teens to prioritize interacting withr>friends one-one-one over making “curated” posts on Instagram =
and Snapchat.
Franklin Mendelsohn, an 18-year-old graduating high sc=
hool senior in
Silver Spring, Md., says the pandemic has caused him to r=
e-evaluate some
of his friendships. He’s mostly been socializing w=
ith friends on
Discord, a communication platform popular with videogamer=
s. But one high
school friend rebuffed his efforts to connect online. &#=
8220;Being socially
distant from people makes it very clear who actually=
wants to talk to
you,” he says. “It’s very easy to we=
ed out people who are friends of
convenience.” But Mr. Mendelsohn =
has also reconnected with an elementary
school friend and now plays vide=
ogames and communicates on Discord with
him every day. “We have so=
much time,” he says.
Some families are experimenting with soc=
ially distanced playdates
outdoors where children stay at least 6 feet a=
part, sometimes wearing
masks. Many pediatricians and psychologists reco=
mmend this approach for
older elementary schoolers, tweens and teens. &#=
8220;Even though you’re 6 feet
apart, the social cognitive neuroch=
emistry is firing like crazy, hearing
their stories and who likes who an=
d who doesn’t like who,” says Arthur
Lavin, a pediatrician i=
n Beachwood, Ohio, and chair of the American
Academy of Pediatrics’=
; committee on psychosocial aspects of child and
family health. Dr. Alvo=
rd recommends activities like riding bikes,
skateboarding and drawing wi=
th chalk on driveways, things that are
relatively easy to do while stayi=
ng physically apart. Younger children,
however, aren’t likely to b=
e able to keep their distance and their play
generally requires close co=
ntact.
Sarah Morford drives daughter Marilyn, 5, to her friends̵=
7; houses so she
can drop off homemade gifts in their mailboxes.
Phot=
o: Sarah Morford
Sarah Morford of Williamsburg, Va., has come up wit=
h some creative ways
to keep her daughter Marilyn, 5, and son George, 4,=
connected to their
friends. Marilyn, in particular, loves drawing pictu=
res, painting rocks
and making bracelets. Most Fridays, Ms. Morford driv=
es Marilyn to her
friends’ houses so she can drop off the homemade=
gifts in their
mailboxes. “She has the recipient in mind as she&#=
8217;s making the thing,”
says Ms. Morford, who owns a mobile spra=
y-tanning business.
For families with multiple children, siblings do=
provide a built-in kid
to play with—and fight with. But doctors a=
nd psychologists say that
siblings can’t fill the role peers do. &=
#8220;Almost invariably they’re not
the same age. Their skills are=
at different levels,” says Yale’s Dr.
Lebowitz. Siblings of=
ten compete for parent’s attention and may have
dramatically diffe=
rent interests.
Dr. Christakis is a proponent of “pods,”=
where two families that have
been isolating team up and allow in-person=
gatherings without social
distancing. Dr. Bierman says children will be=
nefit from connecting
closely even with just one friend. “Think of=
[children] as having a
social emotional learning deficit. Try to make u=
p for it with extra time
with friends,” Dr. Christakis says.
r>In late April, Ms. Marshall in Austin began arranging socially distant>one-on-one outdoor playdates with one of her daughter Chloe’s closes=
t
friends. In late May, she started them with a few more friends. The>children swim at opposite ends of the pool, watch movies on a large
scr=
een Ms. Marshall put up in the family’s yard and make TikTok videos.<=
br>The rules are “no sharing food, keeping distance, no hugs or kisse=
s,”
Ms. Marshall says.
Chloe is thrilled. “It’s=
exciting and I feel really happy” to see
friends, the soon-to-be =
sixth-grader says. “I missed them a lot.”
The Power of Peers=
Children gain critical life-skills from spending time with peers. H=
ere’s
some of what they learn by age:
—Preschoolersr>
Regulating emotions and behavior, negotiation and cooperation
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—Elementary school
Winning, losing, managing conflict, honing =
the ability to take the
perspective of someone else
—Teen y=
ears
How to give and receive social support, intimacy, loyalty, boun=
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