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| DATE | 2006-03-24 |
| FROM | Ruben Safir
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| SUBJECT | Subject: [NYLXS - HANGOUT] Re: [Fwd: Fwd: Shared Parenting Round 2 plus New Column: Are
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Please folks - read this over and make a call to the NY State
Assembly/Senate today. Follow the links for help. Anyone who has ever
had 6 children ripped from them would know ow important this is.
Ruben
On Thu, 2006-03-23 at 23:38, Ruben Safir wrote:
> > Subject: Fwd: Shared Parenting Round 2 plus New Column: Are American
> > Husbands Slackers?
> > Date: Thu, 23 Mar 2006 22:55:24 -0500
> >
> > I URGE EVERYONE HERE TO CONTACT THEIR LOCAL LAWMAKER TO EXPRESS
> > SUPPORT FOR PASSING BILL A00330.
> >
> > This bill establishes a presumption of shared parenting of minor
> > children in matrimonial proceedings. This bill will have a positive
> > and substantial effect on society and remedy the terrible gender bias
> > now present in most custodial determinations. Our children need this
> > bill.
> >
> > Regards, Stu Meltzer, Esq.
> >
> > ______________________________________________________________________
> > From: Jeffrey Rosner
> > To: Stu Meltzer
> > Subject: Shared Parenting Round 2 plus New Column: Are American
> > Husbands Slackers?
> > Date: Tue, 21 Mar 2006 06:11:15 -0500
> >
> >
> > Jeffrey Rosner
> > Seren Funding Corp.
> > 46 East Park Avenue
> > Long Beach NY 11561
> > Tel: 516-889-8218
> > Fax:516-432-0624
> > ----- Original Message -----
> > From: Glenn Sacks
> > To: jeffrosner-at-optonline.net
> > Sent: Tuesday, March 21, 2006 5:06 AM
> > Subject: [Norton AntiSpam] Shared Parenting Round 2 plus New Column:
> > Are American Husbands Slackers?
> >
> >
> >
> > Shared Parenting Round 2 plus New
> > Column:
> > Are American Husbands Slackers?
> >
> > March 21, 2006
> >
> >
> > Round 2 of Shared Parenting
> > Campaign--Fill in Fax Form Now!
> >
> > New York's Shared Parenting Bill
> > has reached a critical point and
> > we're giving the bill a strong push
> > forward. Nearly 3,000 of you have
> > used our form to email the members
> > of the Assembly's Children &
> > Families Committee in support of
> > A330. Now I want you to use our
> > quick, easy form to fax the members
> > as well--click here.
> >
> > The vote on the bill is set for
> > March 28. According to the
> > Coalition of Fathers and Families
> > New York, who are sponsoring the
> > bill, your efforts along with
> > theirs in New York have had a big
> > effect on the committee members.
> > Fax the committee members with your
> > support for this bill by clicking
> > here.
> >
> > New York is a battleground state
> > for shared parenting and
> >
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> >
> >
> > fatherhood. Attorneys' groups, such
> > as the Legal Project and the
> > Women's Bar Association of New
> > York, and feminists, including the
> > New York Chapter of the National
> > Organization for Women, are
> > fighting this bill. These special
> > interests have successfully blocked
> > shared parenting efforts in New
> > York for over 25 years.
> >
> > To support the bill, click here.
> >
> >
> > March 25 NYC Rally for Shared
> > Parenting Bill
> >
> > This Saturday (March 25) New York
> > shared parenting advocates will be
> > holding a rally in New York City.
> > The rally will be held in
> > Manhattan, outside the Children's
> > Zoo, on 5th Ave at 64th Street,
> > from 12 noon to 4 pm. For more
> > information, write to FaFNY
> > activist Debbie Fellows at
> > dafellows2001-at-yahoo.com.
> >
> >
> > The American Coalition for Fathers
> > and Children
> > The American Coalition for Fathers
> > and Children is dedicated to
> > creating a family law system which
> > promotes equal rights for all
> > parties affected by divorce.
> > Contact the ACFC at 1-800-978-3237
> > or visit them on the web at
> > www.acfc.org.
> >
> > Lisa Scott Launches
> > RealFamilyLaw.com
> > Shared Parenting Advocate/Family
> > Law Attorney Lisa Scott has just
> > launched www.RealFamilyLaw.com to
> > expose the truth about what is
> > happening in our family law system.
> > Lisa, the all-time leader in
> > appearances on His Side with Glenn
> > Sacks, says that she was "tired of
> > having her stuff rejected by
> > elitist bar publications and
> > politically-correct newspapers" and
> > decided to start her own website.
> > www.RealFamilyLaw.com
> >
> >
> > Glenn Quoted, Misquoted by
> > Knight-Ridder/Tribune News Service
> >
> > I was quoted (and misquoted) in the
> > Knight-Ridder/Tribune News Service
> > article Women outdo men in
> > graduations, which appeared in the
> > Orlando Sentinel, the San Jose
> > Mercury News, and other newspapers
> > last week. The article says:
> >
> > "Women are smarter than men.
> >
> > "That's one possible conclusion you
> > can draw from a study released
> > Wednesday by UCF's Institute for
> > Diversity and Ethics in Sport.
> >
> > "The study, which examined the
> > graduation rates for teams headed
> > to the NCAA men's and women's
> > basketball tournaments, shows that
> > women's basketball players do far
> > better academically than men's
> > basketball players.
> >
> > "Ninety-five percent of the women's
> > teams graduated half of their
> > players. Only 64 percent of the
> > men's teams did the same."
> >
> > The article quotes and paraphrases
> > me as follows:
> >
> > "Even [Sacks] acknowledges that the
> > male basketball players should take
> > their classwork more seriously.
> >
> > "Most of the guys hope for or
> > expect a multimillion-dollar NBA
> > payday after they leave school.
> > Therefore, they spend more time on
> > basketball than schoolwork.
> >
> > "Then there's something else: what
> > Sacks calls the 'Bill Buckner
> > Syndrome,' the desire not to screw
> > up on the court. Sacks said that
> > male basketball players are more
> > likely to work harder on their
> > games than women because men
> > generally play in front of larger
> > audiences.
> >
> > "'If one of these male players
> > screw up in a major way, you'll
> > screw up in front of millions of
> > people,' Sacks said. 'That'll get
> > you to focus on your game in a
> > major way.'"
> >
> > In the interview I gave several
> > reasons for the women's better
> > academic performance among top
> > athletes. For one, there's simple
> > economics. In general, economics
> > dictates human behavior. While it
> > would be nice if the
> > student-athletes focused on their
> > studies instead of sports, a top
> > male college basketball player is
> > not far away from earning millions
> > of dollars as an NBA player. Many
> > others are close enough to think
> > they will, and others have at least
> > an outside shot. In this situation,
> > it makes economic sense to focus on
> > basketball, not school. One can
> > always go back and take Western
> > Civ. or Biology, but opportunities
> > to become a professional athlete
> > are precious and rare.
> >
> > It is true that some of the top
> > women players will go on to the
> > WNBA, where they'll make some
> > money. However, it's nothing like
> > the future earning potential that
> > the men have.
> >
> > Another reason is distractions.
> > Male athletes are heroes who
> > receive press attention and
> > adulation. Because there is less
> > interest in women's sports, women
> > athletes receive far less.
> >
> > And of course, there's the issue of
> > attention from the opposite sex. I
> > doubt that being an accomplished
> > athlete does much to effect a
> > college woman's chance of
> > attracting members of the opposite
> > sex. It's not difficult for
> > college-age women anyway.
> >
> > On the other hand, for young men
> > and their voracious sex drives, the
> > girls are a huge distraction. And
> > it's not hard for a young athlete
> > to figure out that it's the
> > athletes, not the good students,
> > who get the girls.
> >
> > I also pointed out to the reporter
> > that there's probably more
> > competition for the men's athletic
> > slots. I would imagine that the
> > starting center for a major men's
> > college basketball team has had to
> > beat out more competition than the
> > starting center for the women's
> > team.
> >
> > I also believe the "Bill Buckner"
> > factor--the fear of being
> > embarrassed in front of millions of
> > people in a highly publicized,
> > televised athletic
> > competition--also spurs athletes to
> > do their best.
> >
> > (Bill Buckner was the Red Sox first
> > baseman who let a groundball go
> > through his legs in the 6th game of
> > the 1986 World Series against the
> > Mets, allowing the Mets to win the
> > game and, a day later, the series.
> > Buckner has always been the
> > standard for "goat." I'd feel sorry
> > for him, except that throughout his
> > career he was always badly
> > overrated, so I always viewed his
> > series humiliation as simply
> > evening things out).
> >
> >
> > Athletics and Embarrassment
> >
> > Don't underestimate the motivation
> > provided by fear of embarrassment,
> > even in what might look in
> > retrospect like a trivial
> > situation. Obviously I'm not one
> > who fears fear public
> > embarrassment, but I do recall a
> > couple incidents from my childhood.
> >
> > In one, I guess I must have been
> > about 11. Our baseball team made
> > the playoffs and was advancing, but
> > at this point we were facing sudden
> > death elimination. We're in the
> > last inning (can't remember if we
> > played 7 innings or 9), we're down
> > by two runs with one out, bases
> > loaded, I'm up.
> >
> > The game had gone on a long time
> > and the sun was setting, so
> > visibility was really bad. A kid
> > named Tom or Tim Marino was
> > pitching and throwing what seemed
> > to be very hard. I could barely see
> > the ball. It was just a Little
> > League or Pony League game but it
> > seemed that everyone was watching
> > and it's a big deal. My
> > overwhelming obsession as I come to
> > the plate? Not making a fool of
> > myself.
> >
> > I was a pretty good hitter--I hit
> > over .300 with good power, and
> > batted fifth or sixth on a good
> > team. But this time I felt
> > completely helpless. He threw me
> > the first two pitches and I swung
> > at both, each time missing by what
> > seemed like a foot. I remember
> > stepping out of the box and
> > thinking "dammit, I'm going to
> > strike out in a key situation and
> > make a fool of myself." I took a
> > deep breath--"please just connect
> > with the ball, please." I looked
> > out at the pitcher and squinted and
> > said to myself--"please just throw
> > the damn thing wherever it is I'm
> > swinging, please just hit my bat."
> >
> > The next pitch comes and I connect,
> > hitting a comebacker right at the
> > pitcher. He throws home for the
> > force-out and I'm on first base,
> > unbelievably relieved. The effect
> > of what I did was no better than a
> > strikeout--it's bases loaded, two
> > out either way--but I feel a weight
> > lifted off my shoulders. I can now
> > actually think about the game
> > again.
> >
> > The next batter, a kid named John
> > Shea or O'Shea, smashes a hard line
> > drive to left. I jump up, thinking
> > I could score from first on the hit
> > and we win the game. Except the
> > shortstop is playing deep and the
> > ball is hit right at him and he
> > catches it--game over, season over.
> >
> > I'm disappointed, but as I walked
> > off the field I thought to myself
> > "at least I didn't strike out..."
> >
> > I remember another time I was
> > playing goalie for our soccer team
> > and it was a tremendously rainy day
> > but for some reason we were playing
> > anyway. The parents abandoned
> > watching from the sidelines but
> > instead all sat in their cars in
> > the parking lot right behind our
> > goal.
> >
> > The game was tied and time was
> > running out. The other side came
> > down the field and centered the
> > ball, where it stopped dead in the
> > middle of a puddle about two feet
> > from our goal. There was a big
> > group of guys hacking away at it,
> > trying to either score or clear the
> > ball out.
> >
> > Suddenly the ball squirted out
> > towards the goal, I dove for it,
> > some kid stepped on my leg, I got
> > the ball but only after it had
> > crossed the goal line. So I laid
> > there, shooting pain in my leg,
> > partially wrapped up in the net,
> > wet, cold, muddy, and defeated,
> > looking back up into the bright
> > headlights of all those cars as
> > their horns blared loudly in
> > celebration of their triumph and
> > our defeat.
> >
> > As I've raised my now teenaged son
> > I've thought back on these
> > experiences from time to time and
> > asked myself if I benefited from
> > them and if he would. Proponents
> > of kids' sports would argue that
> > experiences like this build
> > character and teach kids how to
> > lose and how to come back from
> > losing. Opponents would say the
> > emphasis on competition can
> > traumatize kids who aren't old
> > enough or mature enough to deal
> > with it. Overall I'd say there's
> > plenty of truth in both, but as for
> > me, I'd go with the former. I mean,
> > after some of my experiences
> > playing sports, getting chewed out
> > on the O'Reilly Factor in front of
> > three million people was no big
> > deal...
> >
> > I suppose it also depends on where
> > you are in the sports hierarchy. I
> > probably was lucky in this regard.
> > Exceptional child athletes are
> > privileged in many, many ways, but
> > their success also puts them under
> > a lot of pressure and scrutiny,
> > too. Being a bad athlete can also
> > be traumatic. When I played
> > baseball and soccer I was usually
> > somewhere between average and good,
> > maybe the 5th or 6th best player on
> > a team of 15, which was probably
> > the most comfortable place to be.
> >
> > Of course, even a player in my
> > position sometimes has pressure put
> > on them. I had good power and hit
> > some long balls, including a
> > homerun over the fence in dead
> > center and a ground rule
> > double--very, very long balls for a
> > kid that age. So one of my coaches
> > put his arm around me and said
> > "this is our power hitter--he's
> > going to hit some loooong homeruns
> > for us this year." So I started
> > swinging real hard to hit the
> > homeruns the coach told me I should
> > be hitting and hit about .190 the
> > rest of the season...
> >
> >
> > Glenn Misquoted?
> >
> > When the reporter contacted me and
> > explained that the story was about
> > male athletes not doing as well in
> > school as their female
> > counterparts, I said "and you've
> > contacted me because you know I'm a
> > knee jerk defender of men who will
> > make excuses for their behavior, no
> > matter how stupid, lazy or
> > inexcusable." Obviously I was
> > joking. So the reporter wrote
> > "Glenn Sacks calls himself 'a
> > knee-jerk defender of men,'" and
> > now it's in major newspapers like I
> > was serious. Sigh...
> >
> > I suppose it's another example of
> > my oft-stated axiom for dealing
> > with media--expect little, and
> > don't be surprised when you get
> > even less.
> >
> >
> > College Athletics
> >
> > One of the biggest concerns for
> > male college athletes is the
> > feminist-inspired interpretation of
> > Title IX that has led to the
> > destruction of hundreds of men's
> > athletic teams. In my column Title
> > IX Lawsuits are Endangering Men's
> > College Sports (Los Angeles Daily
> > News, 9/7/01) I wrote:
> >
> > "In one of UCLA's proudest moments,
> > UCLA-trained swimmers and gymnasts
> > dominated the 1984 Summer Olympics.
> > Half of the gold-medal winning
> > men's gymnastic team were Bruins.
> > Yet, despite producing 22 Olympic
> > swimming competitors and dozens of
> > world-class gymnasts, these UCLA
> > men's teams were eliminated less
> > than a decade later. In fact, over
> > the past five years more than 350
> > men's collegiate athletic teams
> > have been eliminated nationwide,
> > and the number of men's gymnastics
> > teams has fallen from 200 to just
> > 21. What happened?
> >
> > "These athletic programs were not
> > felled by mismanagement, drugs, or
> > rules violations. They were
> > destroyed by something far more
> > dangerous than a triple full twist
> > off the parallel bars or a reverse
> > three and a half somersaults dive.
> > They were destroyed by Title IX.
> >
> > "Title IX of the Education
> > Amendments Act of 1972 barred sex
> > discrimination in any educational
> > program or activity which receives
> > federal funding. In the decades
> > since, women's athletics have
> > burgeoned in high schools and
> > colleges. Title IX was and remains
> > an important and laudable victory
> > for the women's movement.
> >
> > "More recently, however, misguided
> > feminist lawsuits and political
> > lobbying have changed Title IX from
> > a vehicle to open up opportunities
> > for women to a scorched earth
> > policy whereby the destruction of
> > men's athletics has become an
> > acceptable substitute for
> > strengthening women's athletics."
> >
> >
> > New Edition of Leving's Divorce
> > Magazine Now Online
> > The second edition of Leving's
> > Divorce Magazine, the new magazine
> > for the modern divorced men, is now
> > available online with articles
> > focusing on issues such as men's
> > reproductive rights (or lack
> > thereof), Parental Alienation
> > Syndrome and child support. Visit
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> >
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> >
> > New Column: Are American Husbands
> > Slackers?
> >
> > My latest co-authored column, Are
> > American Husbands Slackers?
> > (Fredericksburg Free Lance-Star,
> > 3/19/06), discusses the assertions
> > being made in the wake of Betty
> > Friedan's death that while career
> > opportunities have opened up for
> > women, these careers are being
> > undermined by women's
> > disproportionate household
> > obligations. The column looks at
> > the relevant research to determine
> > whether men are doing their fair
> > share in their households. Family
> > law attorney Jeff Leving and I
> > wrote:
> >
> > "Feminists' persistent criticism of
> > men has combined with women's
> > traditional expectations of their
> > husbands to place men in a double
> > bind. A man may be a devoted
> > caretaker of his children or a
> > talented cook, but if he is unable
> > to provide for his family, he is
> > not respected. Yet when a man works
> > long hours to fulfill the
> > breadwinner role which he is still
> > expected to perform, he is blamed
> > for not contributing as much at
> > home as his wife does."
> >
> > Tree House Solutions
> > As with the tree house of
> > childhood, parents as well as
> > children need a place of refuge and
> > support to "see above" and to
> > navigate what has been termed "high
> > conflict" divorce. Tree House
> > Solutions, LLC is a growing and
> > evolving resource that is designed
> > to meet both the emotional and the
> > informational needs of parents who
> > are going through divorce, as well
> > as those who are divorced but still
> > experience challenges in shared
> > parenting with their former
> > spouses.
> > www.treehousesolutions.org
> >
> >
> > Want to Give Good Morning America's
> > Manbashing a Hot Welcome?
> >
> > From Good Morning America's
> > website:
> >
> > "March 20, 2006 -- In 1979,
> > homemaker Terry Martin Hekker
> > stirred controversy with her book,
> > Ever Since Adam and Eve, which
> > celebrated stay-at-home wives and
> > mothers.
> >
> > "On Jan. 1, Hekker again created
> > headlines with a column in The New
> > York Times announcing that after 40
> > years of marriage, her husband
> > asked for a divorce to be with a
> > younger woman. 'He got to take his
> > girlfriend to Cancun, while I got
> > to sell my engagement ring to pay
> > the roofer,' she wrote.
> >
> > "Have you been through a similar
> > situation? Have you thought about
> > what you'll do to support yourself
> > if your partner ever leaves you?
> >
> > "Tell your story by filling out the
> > form below. You may be contacted by
> > Good Morning America for a future
> > segment."
> >
> > Last month I countered Hekker's
> > manbashing in my co-authored column
> > The Rise in 'Gray Divorce': It's
> > Always Hubby's Fault (Houston
> > Chronicle, 2/18/06). I wrote:
> >
> > "This 'Pin the Blame on the
> > Husband' is unfair. For one, the
> > stereotype of the husband trading
> > in his wife for a younger model is
> > by and large a myth. The women in
> > the American Association of Retired
> > Persons study were 60% more likely
> > to claim that they ended their
> > marriages than the men were, and
> > men were almost twice as likely as
> > women to say that they never saw
> > their divorces coming. In contrast
> > to the Porsche and trophy wife
> > stereotype, the AARP study found
> > that these divorced men had many
> > serious concerns, high among them
> > their fear of losing touch with
> > their children after their
> > divorces...
> >
> > "Though nobody says it, 'dumped for
> > a younger woman' is sometimes just
> > a woman's cop-out for not taking
> > responsibility for her own
> > contribution to the marital
> > breakdown. Hekker says her
> > ex-husband spent 16 pages of his
> > divorce papers 'meticulously
> > detailing my faults and flaws.' Yet
> > the New York Times' editors didn't
> > ask her to devote a single one of
> > her 1,600+ words towards giving the
> > reader a clue as to what her
> > ex-husband's feelings and
> > complaints might be.
> >
> > "Given the way the media is
> > portraying gray divorce on both
> > sides of the Pacific, this is no
> > surprise."
> >
> > I suggest you leave ABC with some
> > choice words or simply copy and
> > paste my Houston Chroniclecolumn in
> > the emailing to them. Perhaps
> > they'll allow the male side of the
> > story to be heard. To respond to
> > ABC, click here.
> >
> > Help, Resources for Dads
> > The National Fathers' Resource
> > Center is a division of Fathers For
> > Equal Rights, Inc. (FER), located
> > in Dallas, Texas, with offices in
> > both Dallas and Houston. In
> > existence for over three decades,
> > it has services and resources for
> > dads nationwide and is one of the
> > largest and most active fathers'
> > rights organizations in the U.S.
> > www.fathers4kids.org
> >
> > Are You Really the Father?
> > Find out the underlying flaws in
> > the DNA paternity testing system
> > and learn how a man with results in
> > the 90%, 95% or even 99% positive
> > range may not be the father. Learn
> > what most lawyers and judges don't
> > know about paternity testing.
> > www.paternitytestflaw.com
> >
> >
> > Attorney Criticizes Glenn, Says Low
> > Income Dads Can Pay Child Support
> > but Waste Money on Themselves
> > Instead
> >
> > Michael E. Young, Esq. the author
> > of The Art of Divorce, is unhappy
> > over my co-authored column Kansas
> > License Bill Unfair to Noncustodial
> > Parents (Wichita Eagle, 3/8/06).
> > Young retorts in Driver's License
> > Bill is Not Unfair to Noncustodial
> > Parents as follows:
> >
> > "Attorney Jeffrey Leving and
> > columnist Glenn Sacks contend that
> > a Kansas bill that will take away
> > driver's licenses from 'deadbeat
> > parents' who owe more than $500 in
> > support arrearages is 'unfair'
> > because it disproportionately
> > affects the poor.
> >
> > "However, they ignore that many
> > parents below the poverty line have
> > the money to pay support but spend
> > it instead on different priorities.
> > Time and again, funds that should
> > go to child support are spent
> > instead on $60 hairstylist bills,
> > $90 premium cable TV bills, $100 in
> > new clothes, $300 for a New Year's
> > Eve bash, $1,000 for a weekend trip
> > to Las Vegas, a new car, etc. by
> > the 'poor.'"
> >
> > I guess Young is smarter than I
> > am--I didn't realize that the
> > roofers, maintenance men and day
> > laborers who populate the "Top 10
> > Most Wanted Deadbeat Parents" lists
> > put out by most states were
> > spending $60 on hair stylists.
> >
> > Young continues:
> >
> > "Rich or poor, the duty to support
> > one's children exists. Leving and
> > Sacks miss the boat by carving out
> > an exception based on income."
> >
> > I agree that regardless of income,
> > parents have a duty to support
> > their children, though that support
> > also very much includes the
> > emotional support which divorced
> > dads so often aren't allowed to
> > give. But I'm not "carving out an
> > exception based on income"--child
> > support is supposed to be based on
> > income. The issue with many
> > so-called "deadbeats" is not that
> > they won't pay but that they are
> > being asked to pay amounts which
> > are well beyond what's affordable
> > with their incomes. And when they
> > are unable to pay, the system
> > cripples them further by seizing
> > their driver's licenses, jailing
> > them, etc.
> >
> > To share your opinion of this issue
> > on Young's blog, click here. To
> > write to Young, click here.
> >
> > Responsible, Intelligent,
> > Insightful Help for Men from a
> > Woman Who Can Think Like One
> > Therapist Shari Schreiber, M.A.
> > addresses gender issues in her
> > male-friendly Forum, such as: sex,
> > making your marriage work, online
> > dating, men blackmailed into
> > marriage/fatherhood,
> > dangerous/Borderline disordered
> > women, weight issues and MUCH more.
> >
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> > test, Paternity Fraud crusader
> > Carnell Smith's 4TRUTH IDENTITY
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> > virtually every US state and in
> > several countries. Call (404)
> > 289-3321or click here.
> >
> >
> > War Veterans Return Home To Custody
> > Battles
> >
> > I've covered the custody problems
> > faced by deployed service personnel
> > on many occasions. According to
> > this piece on KMBC TV in Kansas
> > City:
> >
> > "Two local women are fighting to
> > get their children back after
> > serving their country overseas,
> > KMBC's Bev Chapman reported.
> >
> > "When Dena Stephenson went off to
> > war, her 6-year-old daughter,
> > Kristina, went to stay with her
> > father. Stephenson followed the
> > military's Family Care Plan, which
> > gave temporary power of attorney
> > and guardianship of her child.
> >
> > "'Once I came back from deployment,
> > naturally, my child wanted to be
> > with me nonstop,' Stephenson said.
> >
> > "Stephenson said she was supposed
> > to get Kristina back when she
> > returned home, but now the girl's
> > father is asking for 50-50 custody.
> >
> > "'I don't agree with that as a
> > parenting plan. I don't think it's
> > healthy for the child and I've
> > already missed a year of her life,'
> > Stephenson said. 'It hurts me that
> > he's trying to do this, and in the
> > long run, I think it's going to
> > hurt her, too.'
> >
> > "Regina Ellis is going through a
> > similar experience. She was
> > deployed overseas for a year, and
> > she also followed the Family Care
> > Plan. Now that she's back, Ellis
> > has lost custody of her son,
> > Trevor.
> >
> > "This month, her ex-husband gained
> > full-time custody, and Ellis said
> > she sees Trevor only every other
> > weekend.
> >
> > "'It's not just us and it's not
> > just the Army and it's not just
> > females -- this is military-wide,
> > and it hurts,' Ellis said."
> >
> > I often hear from deployed
> > servicemembers--some of them
> > female--who are facing these
> > problems, and I sympathize. In this
> > case, however, I sympathize with
> > only one of the two ladies
> > involved. In the case of Regina
> > Ellis, where her ex-husband has won
> > sole custody of their son and she
> > can only see him every other
> > weekend, I think it's an outrageous
> > injustice.
> >
> > In the Dena Stephenson case,
> > however, I see no injustice except
> > the one she is trying to perpetrate
> > against her ex-husband. Her
> > ex-husband parented their 6
> > year-old daughter full-time while
> > Stephenson was away, and now that
> > she has returned he has offered her
> > 50-50 custody. She should recognize
> > that this is best for the child,
> > and acknowledge how fair and
> > reasonable her ex-husband is being.
> > Instead she is demanding sole
> > custody and, playing the victim,
> > says "It hurts me that he's trying
> > to do this." In other words, he's
> > been raising their daughter
> > full-time but now that the child's
> > "real" parent is back the girl's
> > bond with her father is of little
> > or no import. As for dad, he can
> > kiss his parenthood goodbye and
> > settle for the every other weekend
> > visitation shaft.
> >
> > I wish I could set up two legal
> > assistance funds here---one for
> > Regina Ellis, the other for Dena
> > Stephenson's ex-husband.
> >
> > To learn more about this issue, see
> > my co-authored column Laws Must
> > Protect the Rights of Military
> > Dads (Army Times, Marine Corps
> > Times, 3/28/05), and listen to the
> > His Side with Glenn Sacks show Two
> > Years into Iraq War, Little Has
> > Been Done to Protect the Rights of
> > Military Fathers (3/13/05).
> >
> > To read about recent legislative
> > victories for military parents in
> > California and Michigan, click here
> > and here.
> >
> > Online Support for Men Going
> > Through Divorce
> > Don't feel isolated, frightened,
> > confused or alone when going
> > through your divorce. Get the help
> > and support you need without
> > leaving your home at the Ottawa
> > Divorce Forums.
> > www.OttawaDivorce.com/forum/
> >
> > BE THE FIRST TO KNOW
> > The Levine Breaking News E-LERT is
> > Hollywood's premier Breaking News
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> > approximately 100,000
> > "influencers." Referred to as "part
> > CNN-part Variety-part Drudge
> > Report"--to sign up, send an email
> > to MLasst-at-LCOonline.com.
> >
> >
> > Man-Bashing on College Campuses
> >
> > A reader sent me this clip from
> > "The Family Guy" which illustrates
> > the man-bashing and anti-male
> > hysteria prevalent on our college
> > campuses today. To watch, click
> > here.
> >
> > I detailed my sentiments about the
> > way male college students are
> > treated in my column Why Males
> > Don't Go to College (She Thinks,
> > 11/13/02). I also criticized
> > "feminist academics [female and
> > male] who poured their derision
> > upon college men, knowing that
> > their students could not
> > effectively fight back," and "timid
> > male professors who were so content
> > with their own careers that they
> > were perfectly willing to allow 18
> > year-old boys to be beat up on
> > rather than jeopardize their own
> > comfort by speaking out."
> >
> > How Does Sex Discrimination Affect
> > Men and Boys?
> > The National Coalition of Free Men
> > is a non-profit educational & civil
> > rights organization that looks at
> > the ways sex discrimination affects
> > men and boys. NCFM helps provide
> > men a unified voice on important
> > political and social issues.
> > www.NCFM.org
> >
> > Help for Boston Dads
> > Boston family law attorney Nick
> > Palermo is a shared custody
> > advocate who believes that divorced
> > dads are parents, not visitors. The
> > Law Offices of Nicholas Palermo is
> > a dedicated and committed trial law
> > firm which has worked to make
> > shared custody for all fit parents
> > the law of the land.
> > LAW OFFICES OF NICHOLAS PALERMO
> >
> >
> > Indiana Politician Responds to
> > Glenn over 'Deadbeat Dad' Charge
> >
> > A couple weeks ago I discussed
> > Roseland Town Council President
> > Dorothy Snyder's decision to run
> > for the Indiana state legislature
> > on a noncustodial parents' rights
> > platform. She decided to run when
> > Indiana State Rep. Ryan Dvorak
> > proposed a bill which would require
> > officeholders who are more than
> > $15,000 in arrears to give up their
> > offices. Snyder's husband, David
> > Snyder, a local councilman, is
> > reportedly $90,000 behind in child
> > support.
> >
> > Snyder's candidacy got a lot of
> > play and applause on men's and
> > fathers' websites and elists. I
> > noted that "it would be wrong to
> > assume...that David Snyder is a
> > deadbeat who abandoned his
> > kids...many so-called "deadbeat"
> > parents are instead simply dead
> > broke or are victims of the
> > system." However, I also cautioned
> > that "it would also be wrong to
> > assume that David Snyder is simply
> > a victim of the system. There are
> > fathers who behave irresponsibly
> > towards their children, and he
> > might be one of them. I'd like a
> > little more information before we
> > all go jumping into bed together."
> >
> > I guess one of my readers forwarded
> > my enewsletter on to Snyder,
> > because he contacted me a few days
> > later. Snyder wrote:
> >
> > "Your column came to my attention
> > today, and as usual for me when I
> > read similar writings my stomach
> > begins to churn at the unfairness
> > of our current laws and the living
> > hell non-custodial parents,
> > children, and extended families are
> > going through due the thoughtless
> > actions of our legislators. You
> > fairly reserved judgment in my case
> > as I would be wont to do until I
> > had heard all sides."
> >
> > According to Snyder, his child
> > support arrearage (which he claims
> > is $60,000, not $90,000 as reports
> > indicated) was caused by a
> > combination of factors which will
> > sound familiar to many of the
> > divorced dads on this elist. These
> > include: child support based on an
> > income well beyond what Snyder was
> > actually earning; unequal division
> > of marital property; legal bills;
> > periods of unemployment or
> > underemployment; his ex-wife using
> > the legal system to tie up and then
> > destroy his business; and stiff
> > penalties and interest on the
> > arrearages. In the middle of all of
> > this Snyder says he contracted
> > cancer. He also claims that his
> > ex-wife alienated his children and
> > poisoned them against him.
> >
> > I have no idea if all of this is
> > true. I will say one this--I've
> > received thousands of letters from
> > fathers telling me the same types
> > of stories, so Snyder's claims are
> > certainly plausible.
> >
> > The Rantings of a Single Male:
> > Losing Patience with Feminism,
> > Political Correctness... and
> > Basically Everything describes the
> > rise of feminism from the mid '70s
> > to the present, through Ellis'
> > personal experiences and is loaded
> > with outrageous stories.
> >
> > Legal Help for Fathers
> > If you live in Los Angeles,
> > Riverside or Orange counties and
> > you're facing a divorce,
> > separation, or a child custody
> > issue, the law firm of Oddenino &
> > Gaule can help.
> >
> >
> > Glenn Appears on the Dennis Prager
> > Show--Audio Available
> >
> > I discussed my co-authored column
> > The Rise in 'Gray Divorce': It's
> > Always Hubby's Fault (Houston
> > Chronicle, 2/18/06) on the Dennis
> > Prager Show on the Salem Radio
> > Network on March 8. The 45 minute
> > audio (without commercials) is
> > available by clicking here. We
> > discussed many of the issues which
> > serve to drive husbands and wives
> > apart.
> >
> >
> > A Message from FaFNY About the
> > Shared Parenting Bill
> >
> > Debbie Fellows is one of the
> > principal activists in the
> > Coalition of Fathers and Families
> > New York, the New York affiliate of
> > the American Coalition for Fathers
> > & Children. Debbie, a former NOW
> > activist, wrote the letter below to
> > pass on to my readers:
> >
> > "For years we have been fighting an
> > unfair war. Some battles won, most
> > are lost. A330 is a battle but not
> > the war.
> >
> > "This past week we launched, with
> > support from people like Glenn
> > Sacks, the campaign in support of
> > the bill. The Assembly has received
> > over 2,000 letters [now over 2,500]
> > in the last week in support of
> > shared parenting. Their response to
> > us shows that they have been
> > listening.
> >
> > "On March 28 the Children and
> > Families Committee will put A330
> > up for a vote. The Coalition of
> > Fathers and Families of New York
> > has been at the capitol in Albany
> > daily, working in support of the
> > shared parenting bill. In the last
> > year we have been on several
> > television shows and radio
> > broadcasts, and have appeared in
> > newspapers many times.
> >
> > "On Sunday we were on the radio and
> > were beat against the wall on this
> > subject. The Legal Project and the
> > Women's Bar Association of New York
> > came on after us and just tore
> > shared parenting apart. Their
> > misstatements included: '70% of all
> > men win custody in contested
> > divorces'; 'shared parenting is not
> > in the best interest of the child';
> > 'children suffer being shifted
> > between homes'; 'what about
> > domestic violence?'; and '97% of
> > custody is giving to the mothers on
> > consent of the fathers in
> > stipulated agreements.'
> >
> > "Regarding the stipulated
> > agreements, someone called in and
> > stated that the fathers'
> > stipulations to give up custody
> > parallel the 'consent' Sophie gave
> > in the movie, Sophie's Choice. Good
> > analogy.
> >
> > "Our opposition knows this bill is
> > coming up for a vote and they're
> > ready. We have been trying to get
> > shared parenting passed for many
> > years. At this point we certainly
> > aren't going to get everything we
> > want. We have to work within the
> > realm of the possible, and this
> > bill is a start. After this b |
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